Keep your sex zone free of judgment and disdain, and remember having a fantasy is not because you are lacking in providing anything. The fantasy was there before you even showed up.
Sometimes it’s so bad you feel like you could be two feet in front of them, hoping on one foot, singing I Want Your Sex off-key in a one piece crushed purple velvet pantsuit with an 80’s perm and matching velvet headband
“I know for myself the longer the spell goes on, the more nights I have where I’m lying in my bed having that self-talk convo trying to figure out what is going on. It usually goes something like this; “what the hell am I doing wrong? Do I smell? “